I am but a drop in the ocean as are you. We are all the ocean. Where does one drop start and the other drop end? We dance effortlessly, gracefully together. We float on the surface and get tossed back down to the depths. We are the drop and we are the ocean. I am me and you are you, but together we are one. I love you. Each drop in the ocean does not fight to be better than the drop next to it. They follow the flow and natural rhythms of life. And so should you and I - together - as One.
Jennifer Breakey
Love is the only Answer

My life, my loves, my passion ....

Let me begin at the beginning. For about 6 years of my life (ages 3 – 9 years old), I was raised by nuns, and it was here that I became aware of life beyond what we can see. Although I was too young to compute what was going on, and how to make any form of meaning from this, I do believe that this is where my love for truth began. I would go on to learn about the Catholic faith, other western and eastern religions and spiritual paths, only to come back to myself to find the truth was right within me all the time. I am not religious or spiritual, I am just me. The greatest gift I have been given in this life, is the gift of knowing that it matters not which road I travel; all paths lead me homeward bound. None of us get out of this life alive, so let’s all embrace our differences, and learn that love is love. I always ask myself, which path resonates with me, and which is more meaningful for me to walk? I have a love for truth, not in the religious sense of the word, but in terms of the truth that lies at the very core of all existence. This love is pivotal in all I say, think and do. Alexander Pope said – to err is human, to forgive divine. I am therefore completely willing to accept that in this world, I, the human being known as Jennifer Breakey, makes mistakes. But the truth is, at the very core, the very essence of me, is love in its purest form. No exceptions. The only difference is that this love and pureness that I came into this world with, is covered up by my egoic nature, to hide me from the truth of who I am. It is the undoing of this that brings me so much joy and happiness. To forgive means not just to forgive others, but to forgive myself too. I have received much wisdom from many teachings throughout the years. Some of these are the Tao Te Ching, A Course in Miracles and other great teachings. It is my heartfelt prayer that my life’s journey, lessons, experiences and truths, can help you in some way find the inner peace, love, happiness and joy that you have been searching for. Honestly, look no further than yourself. It is there. Within you. You just need to clear away the debris and walls that you have built. Let others in. It is worth it.

I love life! There have been times in my life when I was surrounded by darkness. It over-powered me in so many ways, and it felt like I would never be able to climb out of the abyss. But I did. 

Everyone has a life story to tell, and while there comes a point in your life when you need to stop retelling your story on rinse and repeat, you also need to be aware of the lessons learnt (again, the easy and not so easy lessons) so that you can move past your old pre-conditioned life. You need to see the boundless possibilities for a future well worth living.

Many people live in the past or the future, but far too few people have mastered the art of living in the here and now, living today in today, relishing each nanosecond we have been given. Many sleepwalk through life on autopilot. The past no longer exists and the future has yet to materialize.

It takes time, practice, dedication, a commitment to love yourself no matter what, and a great sense of humor, to get over yourself and sit comfortably with the only constant there is; the present moment and change.

There are 3 things I absolutely love:

  1. cappuccino
  2. pesto pasta
  3. sushi (oh yeah, sushi!)

There is something so soothing when I take that first sip of a fresh cappuccino and a smidgen of whipped cream is left behind on my lip. It takes me to that quiet, tranquil, happy place within myself, and there is only one thing better than a cappuccino, and that is sharing that moment with others. But, sometimes a cappuccino does need to be relished in silence.

I love laughing

I love, cherish and adore my daughter

Grateful for my daughter and son-in-law

If you have a dream, pursue it. If you have a vision, get crystal clear on what it is you want and follow it. If you have a passion you want to live, embrace it. Do not shrink back. Be you in everything you think, say and do.

Born and raised in Cape Town, South Africa, I lived for a few years in London, and did a short stint in Switzerland. I have one daughter who was born in the UK, and she is now married and lives in the USA. I have many credentials, qualifications and experiences, and I spent my career in Human Resources. I qualified in HR Management and certified as an NLP, Energy Re-Sourcing and Ericksonian Hypnotherapy Practitioner™, as well as becoming a Reiki Master. I got my honorary doctorate degree in Metaphysics, became a Reverend at the Universal Life Church, and I was a former HR Executive and Director. My portfolio extends far and wide. I have experience in Labor Law, Chairing Disciplinary Meetings, Training & Development, Strategic Management and Budgeting, Environmental Health and Safety, Occupational Health, the Employment Relationship, Security, Achieving Competitive Excellence, and Coaching and Mentoring.

One of the greatest achievements in my life is single-handedly raising my daughter, but I do acknowledge the great support system I had back home in South Africa. When she was 3-months old, I made the decision to leave the UK and come back to South Africa to raise my daughter on my own. She was an incredibly easy child to raise and we have a very close relationship. Parenting, much like any role that involves unconditional love, wisdom, foresight and a certain amount of winging it, came easily to me. It was never about molding my child into something I wanted her to be, but it was about lovingly giving her the space to find out who she is in this world. I was paid a beautiful compliment by my daughter. She told me that she will raise her kids one day the way I raised her; I just hope she will tweak a few things along the way :). What a wonderful thing to hear. All we can ever hope for as a parent is that our children are healthy, given a great chance in life, and that the road they choose is paved with love, happiness, peace, joy and not too much turbulence.

The best gift you can give someone is the gift of giving them the space to be themselves and to let them live their own truth. They are not you and you are not them. It is this acceptance that allows us all to uniquely live our own truth without fear and trepidation. Give your kids their own space and let them know every day just how much you love them. Life is fleeting. Enjoy each and every moment.

Give more than you receive. Always. There is an infinite number of possibilities that exist in the quantum field. Within you lies your dormant potential. Instead of building sand castles in the sky, why not create a life of meaning, one you have always wanted but have not known how to access?

Vision boards are created, businesses create vision and mission statements, core values are set, and all of this is done with good intentions, but they are soon forgotten in the everyday humdrum of life and busyness. How do you know what you want? Does it include not harming another? Does it include the betterment for all? Does it include finding your own truth within?

What helps me stay grounded is when I align myself with my core values:

  • Compassion – a tangible expression of love for those who are suffering
  • Honesty – the quality of being honest
  • Respect – due regard for the feelings, wishes, and rights of others
  • Integrity – being honest and having strong moral principles
  • Simplicity – the ability to uncomplicate the seemingly complicated
  • Transparency & Trust – the condition of being transparent and trustworthy

If we are to have a positive impact on humanity, we must all operate from a base of love, integrity, dignity and respect towards each other. No exceptions. We must know ourselves and never forget that we are all in this together, as One, traversing the landscape of life. There is no need to make someone else’s journey more difficult than it already is. Rather extend love wherever and whenever you can, and be the best you that you are.