ABOUT JENNIFER L. BREAKEY
Dr. (h.c.) Jennifer L. Breakey - an unbridled passion for love and life
I guess you could label me in many ways – a personal and professional exponential coach, mentor, visionary, an emotionally intelligent leader, an author and speaker. But I am far more than any label you can try pin on me. Life is fluid, nothing is cast in stone. Keep on figuring out what it is you want to do, and then keep going until you find that one thing that makes you feel expansive; that makes you feel like you have come home. It should not be stressful or keep you up at night. You will know what it is when you find it. As a former HR Director and executive, I have seen self-imposed obstacles that keep people from moving forward in their lives. I once managed a large team, which I grew from ground level up. I have set up, coached, mentored and trained HR departments, managers and leaders. I am fortunate enough to have worked for many clients and businesses from all around the world.
My passion has always been – how can I help others let go of the past, embrace the present, and dream of a better future for all.
I love life! Regardless of life’s circumstances: the easy times, the challenging times; the lovely people, and the prickly personalities. There have been moments in my life when I was surrounded by darkness. It over-powered me in so many ways, and it felt like I would never be able to climb out of the abyss. But I did overcome. Through tried and tested methods I was able to get beyond myself and finally understand the meaning of endless possibilities.
Everyone has a life story to tell, and while there comes a point in your life when you need to stop telling your story on rinse and repeat, you also need to be aware of the lessons learnt (again, the easy and not so easy lessons) so that you can move past the old conditioning of your life. You need to see the boundless possibilities for a future well worth living, if you would just step out of your own way.
Many people live either in the past or the future, but far too few people have mastered the art of living in the present moment, living today in today. Many sleepwalk through life on autopilot. The past no longer exists and the future has yet to materialize. It takes time, practice, dedication, a commitment to love yourself no matter what, and a great sense of humor, to get over yourself and sit comfortably with the only constant there is – the present moment and change.
There are 3 things I absolutely love:
- pesto pasta (or gnocchi) with seasoning and pine nuts
- sushi (oh yeah, sushi!)
There is something so soothing when I take that first sip of a fresh cappuccino and a smidgen of whipped cream is left behind on my lip. It takes me to that quiet, tranquil, happy space within, and there is only one thing better than a cappuccino, and that is sharing that moment with others. Sometimes a cappuccino also needs to be relished in silence. It is from these experiences of total relaxation and immersion into the moment, that I came up with the idea of Coffee with Jenny B. – (sharing) a cup of kindness. I want moments where I can share time out with others, and share moments in thoughtful reflection, relaxation and calm. Refer to the resources section to see how you can have a coffee break with our community. Cheers! to our many coffee moments together.
I love laughing ….
I love, cherish and adore my daughter ….
…. and I adore my daughter and son-in-law
If you have a dream, pursue it. If you have a vision, get crystal clear on what it is and follow it. If you have purpose you want to fulfil, embrace it.
Do not shrink back – be you in everything you do.
I must have written this About Me section so many times. It is easy to blindly say who or what the labels say I am, where I live, what my credentials, qualifications and passions are, but to share the essence of me is something quite different. I was born and raised in Cape Town, South Africa, and I have one daughter who is married and lives in the USA.
I have many credentials, qualifications and experiences, and I spent my career in Human Resources. I qualified in HR Management and certified as an NLP and Energy Re-Sourcing Practitioner™, as well as becoming a Reiki Master. I got my honorary doctorate degree in Metaphysics, and I was a former HR Director and Senior Executive. My portfolio extended far and wide. I have experience in Labor Law, Chairing Disciplinary Meetings, Training & Development, Strategic Management and Budgeting, Environmental Health and Safety, Occupational Health, the Employment Relationship, Security, Achieving Competitive Excellence, and Coaching and Mentoring.
Over the years, I have seen many people stand in the way of their own happiness and success. People self-sabotage their success. They go down one rabbit hole after another. They are unable to set reasonable expectations for themselves because they feel they don’t deserve success. They are filled with self-doubt, fear, self-criticism, and they believe all sorts of untruths about who they think they are, and what their limitations are.
If you want something strongly enough, you will find a way to get there, even if it means changing the way you think and feel about things. You need to unravel everything you are not, so that the clouded misperception of who you think you are can dissipate and you can begin to realize what you are capable of.
I help others achieve the success they want by identifying and removing the blocks in their lives. Success is subjective and personal. Once you have mapped out the landscape of your internal success roadmap, your external reality will reflect your internal mindset.
One of the greatest achievements in my life is single-handedly raising my daughter. When she was 3-months old, I made the decision to leave the UK and come back to South Africa to raise my daughter on my own. She was an incredibly easy child to raise and we have a very close relationship. Parenting, much like any role that involves unconditional love, wisdom, foresight and a certain amount of winging it, came easily to me.
I was paid the greatest compliment a mother could hear. My daughter told me that she will raise her kids one day the way I raised her. What a wonderful thing to hear. All we can ever hope for as a parent is that our children are healthy, given a great chance in life, and that the road they choose is paved with love, happiness, peace, joy and not too much turbulence.
The best gift you can give someone is the gift of giving them the space to be themselves and to let them live their own truth. They are not you and you are not them. It is this acceptance that allows us all to uniquely live our own truth without fear and trepidation. Give your kids their own space and let them know every day just how much you love them. Life is fleeting. Enjoy each and every moment.
Tomorrow is guaranteed to no-one so remember to tell your loved-ones every day that you love them.
Give more than you receive. Always. There is an infinite number of possibilities that exist in the quantum field. Within this field lies your dormant potential. Instead of building castles in the sky, why not create the life you have always wanted but have not known how to access? Learn how to access the field of potential and then generate your desires into the material world of matter. Vision boards are created, businesses create vision and mission statements, core values are set, and all of this is done with good intentions, but they are soon forgotten in the everyday humdrum of life. How do you know what you want? Does it include not harming another? Does it include the betterment for all?
What helps me stay grounded is when I align myself with my core values:
- Compassion – a tangible expression of love for those who are suffering
- Honesty – the quality of being honest
- Respect – due regard for the feelings, wishes, and rights of others
- Integrity – being honest and having strong moral principles
- Simplicity – the ability to uncomplicate the seemingly complicated
- Transparency & Trust – the condition of being transparent and trustworthy
If we are to have a positive impact on humanity, we must operate from a base of integrity, dignity and respect towards everyone – no exceptions, we must truly know ourselves and we must always live by the golden rule.